I am looking for some honest feedback from women on here about something. I am thinking of changing my “strategy” a bit to attract more attention to myself, both online and offline. Its been a rough 5 months since my marriage has been open and my wife and I have been Poly and open. I receive little to no attention, and I feel it is because I am married.

My Situation: I am a married man looking for a CASUAL relationship. Dining out, day trips, watching tv cuddling on the couch, making out, etc. The usual. I do not “label” myself as anything, but will be in an ENM relationship if I meet someone who is ENM. My wife is fully polyamorous and ENM.

My Problem: I state in my dating profile “I am a married man in an open non monogamous marriage looking for a casual relationship.” Every time I connect with a woman, they don’t seem to read that. A few sentences into the conversation, they say, “OH! I JUST saw you are married! So sorry.” Almost EVERY woman that likes my profile is looking long term. They want the husband, not the friend with benefits.

My Change in Strategy: I would like to remove the line I mentioned above above being married, and simply just say, “I am looking for a casual, not long term relationship.” And just follow that with my interests and whatever else. Actually LEAVE OUT the mention that I am married.

Am i ‘lying” if i do this up front? Here’s why I think not. If they ask, of course I will be honest and tell them I am married. I’m not looking to hide it or look like a cheating husband. I just don’t feel, for the relationship I am looking for, it is something that should matter up front. The way I see it, if a woman is looking for a CASUAL relationship, (no marriage, no falling in love, no moving in together), then what is wrong with being with a married man? I think most women shy away from it because they dont want the possibility of drama from the wife. That won’t happen with me because my marriage is open. Im not cheating. My wife and I encourage each others behavior, and enjoy it.

Ladies, here is my question to you. How would you feel If you saw my profile, liked it, and found out I was married, IF you were ONLY looking for a casual relationship?