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First, please do not take the use of "sharing" as anything more than a kink. No one actually shares me. I am my own to share or not.
Ok, so I have a LTR partner (Ron) and an occasional FWB (Harry).
Ron and I are open / poly, and he was into swinging with an ex. Harry prefers monogamy, and I'm sure he'll meet someone and we'll part ways sooner or later. In the meantime, he has a "sharing kink," and he likes that I'm not exclusive to him.
Ron, Harry, and I have gotten together a couple of times for threesomes, no MM action because Harry's not into guys. It's been fun, but this last time I wanted to play into the sharing kink, but I couldn't figure out how to do it.
Another threesome friend mentioned to me how "coupley" Ron and I are, as a third joining us, he had to move past our couply-ness. I get it. We know each other very well.
TLDR / My point / Question: Next time, Ron and I host Harry, I want to play up the "sharing" thing. Ron is totally on board. He's happy to help fulfill a fantasy / kink. I want to somehow maneuver things so it's more like I "belong" to Harry and Ron is the one I'm being "shared" with.
Any ideas about how to help Harry feel like he's the one "sharing" me with Ron?
Good comment, but there's no "control" involved. He's 90% vanilla which is part of what I get hung up on. I tip into D/S .. and that isn't what he likes.
I realize he and I are going to need to talk about this more. I'm sure we will have fun sexting about it at some point. I'm just brainstorming with other non-monogamous people who may have done similar things.
I read "using Harry's pussy" and I got confused for a moment thinking that you thought he was a woman .. LOL... 🤣🤣
FYI, I'm Submissive to Ron, although he's a switch and prefers to sub with men. Harry is not into D/S, so we try to leave all that at the door.
Ron's not straight. Harry is the first totally straight guy I've been with in... Idk... a year??? It's very different. And he's the first we've had threesomes with.
As I thought I made clear in my original post, no, I'm not into "being shared." I'm attempting to play into the kink... Pretending to be shared, but without crossing any of my own boundaries (like degradation).
This is good insight though. I appreciate you taking the time. Hopefully, it will help me navigate this
I can see how that might work for some people, but I don't want that ... 😕
Well, none of us are sports people, so the whole athletic team thing isn't appealing.
Also, that personally feels like it tips into degradation / humiliation which is a hard no for me
Additionally, it's already odd for me that there's no MMF in this configuration, and this type of team thing seems to separate the M & M and the F instead of bringing us together ... Not sure if that makes sense.
No criticism for those it appeals to. It's just not for me / us.
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Well, "Harry" resembles Daniel Radcliffe, so it's a running joke... "Ron" probably looks more like a bald Snape 🤣