After 3 years of being open, husband wants to go back to monogamy. (Well, kind of.. he is ok with us swinging together with couples but not dating people individually).

We learned a lot. We had jealousy at first. I did a lot of inner work and overcame that and got to the point where I genuinely wanted him to have the best of everything and find a spark with someone, have fun, feel loved as much as humanly possible…

He didn’t get there. I had a guy I saw for 1.5 years. I didn’t always handle things great, husband thinks this guy was manipulating me, sometimes he made me sad… but now husband is deciding it’s over and I am upset that I don’t have the final say of how and when this person can stay in my life or not.

We’ve talked. I don’t see a “compromise”. Does one exist? I love him more than anything and I will absolutely be monogamous if that’s what it takes to grow old with the man I adore.

But I’m sad. Disappointed. I feel like I had a taste of how awesome this openness, trust, compersion can be in a relationship and now it’s just over. He said it has hurt him and his self esteem. He had some FWB’s but never found the same spark and connection with somebody that I did. And he doesn’t want to try anymore.

I guess I just am posting to see if anyone else has advice or experience to share that may help me move forward without being bitter.