TLDR; Where does a newb who doesn't know what they are looking for meet new friends that already practice various forms of non-monogamy and can introduce them to the many possibilities?

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I'm still new to all this. I've been lurking for a while and recently started commenting and posting a little. I need advice though. My current understanding is that nonmonogamy is kind of an overall umbrella for all forms of plural relationships from hookup culture to deep emotional bonds. That said I need to meet some people. I am in need of friends who understand and can introduce me to others. I'm not looking to date exactly more like meet people who are non-monogamous and willing to talk. Not just online either. I really need to develop interpersonal skills which means spending time with real people.

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In short I need friends I can talk to in person about open relationships. Where are such friends found? I have read plenty about setting up a profile and stating what I want but what if what I want is a slow introduction through friends and not a date that will leave my potential friend with incorrect expectations? I feel like setting up a profile on Bumble or OKCupid is premature for several reasons and it will set the tone that I'm looking for a date that might lead to either a one night stand or more than friendship.

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Where do you go to meet new non-monogamous friends in person? I am not saying nothing could develop from such a friendship. I don't want to ask someone on a date when what I really want is to make a new friend and learn about their particular flavor of non-monogamy from conversation. Rather than jumping in head first and flailing through a few bad experiences blindly before figuring out what I really want.

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That is my biggest problem. I don't really know what I want. Sometimes I'm just super horny and tempted to go blast it out on R4R subs. Other times I just want someone to talk to. I've had times when I want to complain about my family. I love them but no one is perfect I know full well that I make mistakes too. I want to get out of the house and go do things, swimming, bike riding, hiking. My wife is a home body. She would rather have her BF come over and watch Netflix. I want to go do things... Sexy and non sexy things.

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It needs to start with friends though. So I ask again and clearly.

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Where does one find non-monogamous friends of any and all flavors?