I think we as an ENM group (yeah, it’s NM per the title but I just struggle with not doing it ethically so…) , we often forget the reason why we became part of it…FOR ENJOYMENT!

Why do people often stress out over should they see this person, should they do that, do this, etc.?

Why do we often worry about ‘I can’t find someone but my spouse can’?

Why worry about which app to use?

Why worry about if someone doesn’t reply to a text?

Now, not saying these won’t just bug you. However, if this life is going to add so much stress to our already stressful lives, why are we doing it? Why are we letting it?

I royally made a potential FWB mad once when she asked ‘what if we don’t click after we meet?’ My response was ‘it’s no big deal, neither of us are worse off than now.’ It may be hard to hear, but it’s true. Don’t let this life just torment your brain to no end. Enjoy it. Smell the roses, taste the food. Take time to take it all in.

Edit to add: remember also that you are still dealing with a person. Respect seems to be often lacking in ENM. Be honest with them.