I, like most of us, enjoy the various points of ENM. Meeting new people, new personalities, new sides of ourselves, etc.

However, I have been seeing 2 things lately from several posts that bother me.

1. Trust issues (grouping this with lies, half-truths, not telling things that needed to be told, etc.) Guys and gals, this whole ‘thing’ is based in trust. If I am talking to someone and determine they aren’t telling their primary about what they do, why in the hell do I think they will not lie to me? If you SO is or has lied and has a pattern of this, remove the E from ENM. It’s not. Don’t do things that will cause trust issues. (Don’t ask me about DADT...I don’t agree with it but if it works in your case, fine.)

2. The ‘don’t forget who brought you to the dance’. This is one that I found really pisses poly folk off when I mention it. Your spouse...your LEGAL spouse...don’t screw up a family or your marriage life for someone who hasn’t raised your kids, bought a house with you, etc.. MAKE 100% sure they know you love them and they are your first thought. If you can tell someone you are starting to see is an abrasive subject with the spouse, iron the issue out. The problem won’t go away if you come home smelling like them....

There are other things but these two just seem to be the subject of lots of posts lately (outside of the weekly posts a guy has about finding women lol.)