So, 2 nights ago my husband of 14 years admitted has for years fantasize about me sleeping with someone else and coming back to him to tell him all about it. For 48 hours I have been researching, asking questions and absorbing as much as possible. I think I’m open to the idea. But some things worry me. Firstly I’m not “hot” and I’m on the heavier side, also 38. Are there even options for people like me to find bulls? Everyone seems to be fairly good looking in these situations from what I’ve seen/heard so far. Second. Do most people seek counselling to keep their marriage together? I’m worried about him actually being too jealous or myself catching feelings. Any tips for a newbie? I’m not even sure where we would start.