I'm not really complaining, my life is really good as it is and I'm not lacking anything. But the topic still interests me.

When we first opened up, I was excited to be able to use Tinder and such, to see what it was like. And I'm glad I've been able to, I was quite curious about it. And it hasn't been bad either, I've found really interesting people, had good conversations and been on a few dates. I even managed to have sex with one person, and it was a positive experience.

But most of the time, I just can't. I assumed at first that it was because I was new to it, I had lived in monogamy with my first sexual partner for so long and maybe my inner slut needed some time to come out and play?

Maybe that is still the case but it seems more and more like the expectations as such makes it almost impossible for me to find any attraction and lust for them. I'm not saying that every man I match with necessarily wants to have sex with me - they are people too, not machines who want to fuck anything that lets them, no matter what, even if they sometimes give that impression - but there is still at least some degree of hope, from both sides I assume, that we'd both end up wanting that. And it seems like I can't find that want when I'm looking for it.

I can easily get attracted to people in other contexts, where there is no pressure or expectation for it.

Anyone who can relate to that? Do you think that might be it, or is it just my inner slut being shy, or have I just not found the right men, or something else entirely?