Hi there,

So, my fiancé (32M) and I (26F) have been open (FWBs only) for two years. We’ve had our ups and downs and while it’s been generally working we’ve come into a snag.

He works out of town and is home only on the weekends, where I’m home every day. Because of this he’s had a difficult time finding a partner. We both had steady partners for awhile until his partner decided to be monogamous with her primary.

He’s starting to lose his sex drive and confidence because of this and that I was still seeing my other partner; it was always with his approval since I asked out of respect. And due to the virus, he’s been having a difficult time finding a new partner. I never knew how much it had affected him until he expressed how he was starting to resent me (in being able to still see my partner). In retrospect, I can understand where he’s coming from. Maybe I should have been more sensitive and put a hiatus on seeing my other partner.

So my question is, how can we find a balance with this? His job is something that cannot be changed right now. I’m okay with placing a hiatus on seeing my other partner, I don’t have a problem with that. I just feel like it’s a lose-lose situation especially for him and I wonder if there may be something else that can help make it to where we’re both able to benefit.