My wife and I have been married for 15 years and ethically non-monogamist for the last year and a half.

I have an old acquaintance that’s recently divorced and someone I’ve had a crush on some 20 years ago began talking to each other this week.

I have already discussed this with my wife, but the biggest hurdle that I’m struggling with is how do I discuss our lifestyle with my old crush and express my interest/desire to be with her in a caring and understanding way?

I’ve really come to rely on this community a lot during this lifestyle transition. Helping me overcome my anxieties and various other supportive topics, but I’m not seeing much out there with regards to this.

Any advice on ice breaking would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!