So...my Mom is really interested in meeting my boyfriend. I really want her to meet him too. But, this whole nonmonogamy thing is new to me. I’ve only even really known I wanted to be ENM since December, before that I was dating around and said I wanted to keep the option open to date other people and then before that I was monogamous, or at least trying to be and failing at it a lot and being a terrible person. Mostly being a terrible person though, which we can get into another day or in the comments I guess. That past is not that relevant.

My point is, I haven’t really considered the problem that if I date anyone else and it becomes serious that they might also want to meet my mom.

My mom is deeply religious. She knows that I’m atheist (well, she knows I’m at least agnostic), so I’ve already sprung that on her about a year and a half or two ago. Telling her this as well would be a lot for her I think. And the other issue is that if I come out to her now, what if she assumes that I’ve decided to be non-monogamous because my boyfriend wanted me to be? I chose this, I pushed for this. But idk how to prove to her that I did.

So I’m kind of stuck.

I’m also kind of stuck because I’ve started dating a new guy and I really like him. I miss living with a romantic partner. My existing boyfriend isn’t too keen on me moving in with him because he already has a full house with some teenagers that he has guardianship of. I’m okay with living alone for now, but I really do miss living with a romantic partner, and I’m worried that In the three months before my mom visits that I’ll become closer with the new guy and that he might want to meet her too or I might want her to meet him.

So...obviously I have things to figure out and I shouldn’t worry about things before they’re a big deal. (For one things with the new guy could end up not working out anyway, there’s definitely some NRE going on there and on top of that he’s really emotionally attached to his last relationship anyway, so who knows)

But I guess I just realized that I have no idea how to handle this. I guess I’m almost lucky that my dad passed away because at least I don’t have to explain it to him.

How did you guys come out to your parents? Or how do you deal with parents?

Oh, on top of this, my mom is coming out for a family reunion, which means it’s her and many of her siblings and their kids. We are all fairly close, but I definitely don’t want my boyfriend to have to meet the whole family the first time he meets my mom, especially my pastor uncle. Especially when none of them know I’m nonmonogamous. And also my boyfriend doesn’t really have interest in meeting my other potential boyfriends, at least not for now (possibly in the future but maybe not).

So yeah...I have a lot to think about.

TL;DR Mom is religious, I haven’t come out to her yet about dating multiple people, I’m currently serious with one and I’ve talked about him a ton in the last six months and now she wants to meet him. I want her to meet him too, but I also don’t want to “hide” anyone else that might become serious from her. (Or maybe I’m asking if it’s okay to hide others from her for a while until I’m comfortable coming out to her?)