Did i go to far in suggesting a threesome with my ex to my girlfriend? And if so why? The following situation happend: My girlfriend and i are in a loving open relationship and want to try inviting a second party to the fun in the bedroom. We discussed different rules and the most important rule was: we suggest a person and the other partner gets a veto. We had some other discussions about that topic and our ex-partners were she said she would like to see me with an other woman and she would „direct“ that scene and tell us what we were allowed to do to each other. Fast forward to the fateful evening when my ex wrote me how i was doing and all that stuff (she was very jealous of every woman in my life and accused me weekly of cheating). We started talking and and the topic of my open relationship came up and i said if she missed sleeping with me i could ask my girlfriend and if she was okay we could have a threesome. I made it clear there was no chance of getting back together or that i have no feelings for her, but you know: great sex was on the table. I suggested to my girlfriend my ex was up for the threesome and she could „direct“. And she could also overcome her insecurities towards her by making clear: i‘m hers but she is nice enough to share me this time. A one and done kind of thing were she could see there is nothing and make it clear i‘m hers. At first the discussion was very grounded and then she became hurt and cried half of the night, we talked about it and she felt very hurt and insecure and everything is fine now. But in my head i‘m still asking myself did i go too far? In my head it was a perfect solution and i just wanted to solve these problems with my suggestion.

(BTW: i would be fine if she suggested her ex because i know i‘m the better man/lover)