Hi all, I've been lurking on this sub for a while and I wanted some advice from people who have more experience. Apologies if this is not the right sub.

I will preface this with the fact that I am literally autistic, and so I feel like I am missing some sort of social knowledge or something. I am looking for advice that is as specific and literal as possible.

Myself (28F, bisexual) and my partner of three years (29M, straight), have been talking about going to a kinky/sex-positive club. We are both very sexual, and wanted to check this type of thing out.

Most advice I have read focuses on setting boundaries with your partner. My question is - how exactly does that conversation look? What kind of things should we discuss? I feel like I know the surface-level things: protection, STD history, but then I am a little confused beyond that. How strictly do we define things? Do we just sit down and go through every possible scenario and discuss what we would do? That feels like it would take a long time and also I have no idea what to cover since I've never done anything like this before.

If anyone can share exactly the conversation they had with their partners before going to a club or sex party, I would greatly appreciate it. What kind of questions did you ask each other?

Thanks in advance!