Me and my partner have been married for a decade and open for 3. For a variety of reasons, things have broken down in our marriage and, while we have both contributed, I feel like they blame me and refuse to do the work of repair or to resolve their feelings. I am frustrated and at the end of my rope and just can't bare sitting here having my bids for connection rejected or not prioritized while they go out dating other people and I am stuck at home with the kids.

I am strongly considering closing the marriage by saying I revoke my consent. In your opinion, can I just do that?

I realize this won't resolve anything, but it will provide restpet to me. They already tell me semi-daily how much they resent me and how I'm unreliable, ghost on my family, etc. So I don't have much to lose.

My thought is that once I close it, if they do anything, its outright cheating and I can respond accordingly. Alternatively, they can leave, but thats up to them. Its not me being forced out of a life I spent a decade building.