so, me (F23) and my partner (M29) have been talking about having a threesome/foursome for a few years now and feel like our relationship is now really strong enough for us to be able to deal with whatever potential problem that could arise. the only actual rule we would have is the no kissing/cuddling the other people. the reason is that we find cuddling and kissing more intimate and also just as a precaution to maybe avoid catching feeling for other people (which, i’m assuming, can happen regardless).

is this considered disrespectful to other people involved? i also saw it being mentioned a few times as a red flag - why is that? genuinely just curious to hear what you people with experience have to say and we also want to avoid being disrespectful to others. thanks :)