Hello! My husband and I have been open for a few months. I’m really enjoying it so far, specifically meeting new people, new sexual partners, honestly just loving the sexiness of it all!

I have best described myself as seeking “friends with benefits.” My ideal situation would be finding a person or people who I really enjoy spending time with (like a friend) and also have great sexual chemistry.

I met someone recently on Feeld (partnered heteroflexible dude) who said I’m never going to find this especially meeting straight single men (this is mainly what I’ve met so far- and I’m heteroflexible female). This guy told me that men will just want to fuck me and pretend to be my friend to get there or continue to get there. Because I have a husband, they have no actual interest in developing a connection of any sort. Maybe this is true- I really don’t know. It was a bit discouraging to hear. Not sure if this guy is just closed minded or if there’s some truth to it.

I’m not against meeting people who aren’t straight/aren’t single/aren’t men. I’m just very attracted to masculine energy and there happen to be a lot of straight single men that are matching with me. I try my best to ween out the “good” ones- one person I’ve been seeing really does feel like a genuine fwb - but maybe not, now I’m feeling discouraged.