me and my partner have been talking about having sex with other people, together, for a few years. we are both pretty insecure and didn’t want to rush anything and wanted to make sure our relationship was really strong. this is my first relationship so i have no experience regarding polyamory but i’m assuming some jealousy is to be expected/normal, it’s more about how you handle it. i’ve been thinking about what i think might make me jealous or insecure the most in this situation and have come to the conclusion that, if a person came and made my partner orgasm super fast (which i have trouble with), or something to do with doing anything better than me (to be expected) - i feel that would make me feel super insecure to the point of crying. however - i do get off on him being pleasured by me or (in theory) by someone else.

i am aware that i need to work on myself! my question is, would this, in your opinion be a deal breaker? as in, i should first sort my head out before going into something like this? i do think i’d be able to put my feelings aside during sex though.