So here is some background my wife about five years ago suggested we open our relationship.She gets her guys from tinder and other sites while I get mine from escort sites. This was her idea as she knows I'm not good at dating, I have a stammer that I am too self conscious about.

There are rules in place on her end never the same guy twice, safe sex all the way, not in our house and I don't want any details outside if she had a good time.

On my end she leaves the money me on the table, this is kind of a nonverbal way of saying I am having my fun go have yours. Safe sex again, and she wants all the details when she reclaims me when I get back or a day or so after. Also I'm in the UK so this is all legal and less stigmatized than other places in the world.

For the most part it has worked well she sometimes comes home her hair, outfit and makeup a little messy I ask if she had a good time and I reclaim her. Or I come home, she asks all the details as she reclaims me, she really gets off on the details.

This was all her idea we have been together for over twenty years and before we started things had become a little stale between us. At first I was a little uneasy but as time went by I learned to trust and I got used to the idea and now it's a great part of our lives.

Now here is where it gets complicated, on a few days ago I met with a girl (escort) I have been seeing multiple times over the past year. We got talking at the start as we usually do and I mentioned it was my birthday, we kept talking as I mentioned I was insecure about getting older and we laughed it off. She mentioned she hadn't had sex for two weeks because of the holidays as she was with family.

When we got in bed things got way hotter than normal and we ended up having raw sex. I have never done this with anyone other than my wife and I trust the my wife hasn't either since our arrangement. The girl knows my situation and suggested I leave that part as it would only end badly.

Part of me wants to be honest but I also don't want my wife to get upset. The escort and I agreed it was a silly mistake and not something that should happen again.

She gets tested often I've seen the details of this as I asked her once how go about testing for my self, and I have already booked for my self next week. Also me and my wife get tested regular as a precaution.

I think or hope I am just over thinking all this but would be open to advice. Thanks and sorry for the long read.