Hi! So my situation. I've recently started seeing Dave and Emma, a couple. Me and Emma saw each other individually a few months back but it didn't work out. But when we were together she was fine at communicating and very good at planning meets so we pretty much always had the next meet planned.

About a month ago Dave got in contact with me as he is a photographer (as a hobby) and wanted me to model for him! We got talking and one thing lead to another and I suggested we try as a 3, something I knew they were both interested in. We pretty quickly got out first (social) meet planned. We have a group chat but it was explained that Emma found it quite tiring talking online (something she told me after we had spilt up) and so me and Dave did most of the talking, in a separate conversation. All good. He seemed keen to talk most if not every day. But a few days ago Dave starts to go quiet. This coincided with him going back to work after Xmas, but as he was chatty before the Xmas break I didn't think this was the reason. At the same time, I had sent a message in the group chat, asking them, now that the Xmas and new year hectic-ness was over, when they were available for our next meet, and stating my availability. Both of them totally ignored my message. So that coupled with Dave going quiet really made me anxious. Eventually I kind of ask him more directly what's going on, after a few unanswered messages. He says that now he's back at work he won't be able to talk every day, plus he's trying to cut down on his phone use in the evenings and is often busy, and he finds it pressuring to be expected to reply quickly to my messages. But he is definitely still interested. All of that is totally fine, but also a change in how he has communicated before xmas, so I'm not sure how I was expected to know that when he hasn't told me! And there was no mention of our next meet.

I'm seeing him tomorrow for the photo shoot so I'm hoping our next meeting can be discussed then. But right now I just feel a bit frustrated that they won't plan our next meet! I would never just ignore a message like that. And I don't really understand why it's so hard for them to make plans. It just makes me worried they aren't that keen, despite what he says.... Urgh!!