my bf (20m) and i (19f) are both bisexual and have been dabbling in non-monogamy and swinging since we met. recently, we met up with and played with a guy (29m) we met on an app. fyi : neither of us mind the age gap and it isn't predatory in any way. we have no desire to be in a relationship with him beyond sex and acquaintanceship.

we both really like this guy, he's extremely attractive and has more experience than we do, and he seemed to be very into us. like we could talk about how hot he is all day! he fucked me so hard my buttplug came out, my bf ate me out perfectly like always, and my bf and i sucked his impressively thick cock together. however - my bf could barely get hard, and i couldn't orgasm just from how nervous we both were. we didn't want anything to go wrong, but our panic made things go wrong....he wasn't mean about it, and towards the end he did such a sweet thing, encouraging my bf to cum, they ended up both cumming all over my chest.

we're just kinda hoping he doesn't ghost us and would want to get together again, especially considering he'll be out of the area for a while. i think also, all of us haven't done anything like this in a while, so it may just feel extra awkward? we didn't really engage in a lot of small talk, and while we do want just a casual sex partner, we want to be able to chill for a minute and catch up before we start getting naked. but any time we weren't actively fucking, i had no idea what to talk about! i dunno, i'm just trying to figure out how to make stuff like this less awkward for everybody. my bf is starting on an herbal testosterone supplement, and getting some generic ED pills in case of emergencies. i'm not exactly sure what i can do to improve my situation though. if anybody has any advice on how to break the ice, i'd appreciate it!

also sorry if this was hard to read, i'm on mobile.