I'm sharing some of my story here because I've felt a need to write all of it out for sometime now. In the midst of living an ENM lifestyle, I sometimes forget how far I've come as a person, partner, and friend. I also want to learn from the perspectives of others, and grow in my weak areas.

Two years ago, I (M32) went through a divorce after a 12 year, monogamous marriage. Following my divorce, I spent close to a year mostly keeping to myself.

I'd go on an odd date here or there, and I had a few casual flings and hookups. Nothing serious though, I mostly focused on therapy, my work, my kids, and getting myself in a healthy headspace.

Before long, I met Raven (F36) and we were instant friends. Similarly to me, Raven was rediscovering herself following a long-term relationship ending. We both had kids, tons in common, and "clicked" in a very natural way.

We both recognized that we were infatuated with each other, talked extensively about it, and worked together to remain civilized despite our intense feelings. From the jump, Raven and I were both clear that we were okay with the other person continuing to meet and date other people.

After knowing Raven for a month, I met Sally (F36). Sally and I connected well, and both her and Raven knew about each other immeadietly. For a little over a month, the three of us had an awkward throuple of sorts.

I went on dates with each of them, slept with each of them, and it was a total headtrip at times for all of us, but it worked in its own strange way. Eventually, Sally and Raven both came to me and expressed that they wanted me to choose one of them.

We had an awkward and emotional three-way meet-up. None of us had ever been in any kind of poly relationship before, and both women admitted that they were deeply struggling with jealousy issues.

I knew that I was more compatible with Raven, and so I chose her. I felt like the biggest asshole on the planet but both Sally and Raven said they understood and had no hard feelings. We all made a pact to remain friends, and to not harbor any resentment or ill will towards each other.

For the last 8 months, Raven and I have been going steady and I can legitimately say my life has never been better. Sally and Raven talk regularly, and sometimes they'll go to dinner or out shopping together. I've really loved seeing them become friends.

About three months ago, Sally approached Raven and broached the idea of a threesome. Neither Sally or I had experience with group play at that point, but Raven did, and she was quick to educate us both.

Raven outlined to us both that we had to be careful not to let feelings get involved, and that real life is not a porn and things might be really awkward. She was also defensive of the bond her and I had built, and while she wasn't jealous, she did want to ensure that promiscuity wouldn't harm our bond.

The three of us met for sushi and talked boundaries, consent, feelings, and everything else under the sun. On the drive home from the restaurant Raven turned to me and said,

"I trust Sally and I trust you. I'm actually excited for this experience with you guys."

The next week we did the deed and it was phenomenal. Everyone left the experience glowing and on a high.

Since then, Raven and I have formed a group chat with Sally and talk to her everyday. We have a lot of friendly banter and there haven't been any negative feelings or problems between us.

Raven and I continue to be monogamous-ish, and Sally is dating and enjoying her best single life. She tells us tons of crazy dating app stories, and we share whatever couple shenanigans we're up to with her.

We have another threesome planned for two weekends from now. We're going to a concert and grabbing dinner together, too. Should be a wonderful evening.

To think that just two-ish years ago I was in a dead bedroom marriage, and the unhappiest I've ever been, and now things I never could've imagined are regular occurrences... life is weird, man.

I'm trying to navigate this situation in the healthiest way possible. I do my best to communicate clearly and in as healthy of a way as possible. I have no clue what I'm doing, I just kinda trust my instincts and let my emotional intelligence guide me.

Raven and I have agreed that we treasure the love we have for each other, and we want to do whatever it takes to preserve and protect it. We're not actively looking for people to share our love with, but if it feels natural, we'd allow ourselves to flow with it.

Raven curled up next to me before bed tonight and whispered in my ear,

"I love you so much. You make me so happy."

I don't know where this road will lead, but I do know that I'll end up exactly where I need to be.