Maybe I'm in my feels?

Husband (m29) and I (f31) recently decided to open our marriage. Together 10 yrs, married 9.

We did hotwife/cuck for 4ish yrs. I only played. Solo. He never expressed intrest in playing or being there to watch. Only wanted pics/vids. Which I had to get used to.

Ofc I did encourage him to play or join if he wanted to.

Since opening, he has gone faster than I have.

He has been on date and spend the night with his new partner a few times. Me? My first date got 'rain check". Yeah, I have been with A another man since. But that has been all.

I have met her, prior to us opening. They were friends. She and I were becoming friends. And I do like the gal. She's a good person. Now? I don't know if she woukd still want to be. And I don't want to feel like I am over stepping him, with him still figuring out what he wants, and directly asking her.

Since he had asked her out on a date, he has told me that she said she is a jealous type. And said for me to not be all over him with her at our house. - he's not affected person nor likes to be 'hung all over' anyways.

At first I was like wtf are you to tell me what I can and cannot do in my own home. Then I kinda checked myself, but still kinda like why tell me when I already know he doesn't like to 'hung on'.

I guess what im asking input on is, how would I either 1- figure out how to deal with him moving faster. 2- am I wrong to have those internal thoughts? (I have voiced the thought once. That was when he had told me that she said she the jealous type.)