My wife and I recently decided to move from swinging to solo dating. Just so happens person we know in real life reached out. I’ve always had a bit of a crush on the wife, even before we became swingers. We went on a 4 way date, the wife and I connected, but it was only a 2 way connection. Her husband has been pushing her to solo date, he’s into her dating but also wants to date on his own.

The wife and I have been talking, with all parties knowledge, sexting and all that fun stuff. We went on a lunch date with the rule being no sex. We had a nice lunch and a hot make out session in the back of her car.

We’ve been talking for 2 or 3 weeks, and had a date planned for later in the month, a hotel type date. All parties, know. She and I sext most days, nothing too crazy or often, a couple messages a day.

Got a message that husband has gotten some strong jealousy feelings. She asked we slow down/step back. Totally cool, don’t want to fuck with their relationship. Husband and I have not talked a lot since this all started just a little bit.

Sorry for the novel. My question, should I send a message to the husband, reassuring him im taking a step back and that we are all cool? We like know these ppl in real life, see them frequently in our community. Help for a novice who feels like he’s stepped in a pile. Thanks!