Hello all Happy new year. Having question for you.

My wife and I have been poly for 2 years almost. I just ended things with a partner recently, and my wife is ready to call off being poly all together and not allow me to seak other relationships. She states she was only doing poly because it made me happy and that was the only reason she tried it in the first place. Now, we have a therapy session scheduled with our poly friendly therapist in a few weeks to try to get back on the right track, but its possible she may be done for good. When trying to work through this with her, talking and communicating, not forcing her to do it just trying to help find a way for everyone to be happy or find the cause of her wanting to stop, she states security is a big concern of hers. What she means by this is that ive had a few partners previously who would meline and slander me publicly or to her directly when we broke up or didn't even make it to the dating stages and either have threatened to go to my job about me being poly or "cheating" just to get me in trouble. Thankfully we have been able to avoid that fiasco so far, but she's really worried that someone will do that again and go through with it and not only would it impact my job but her career as well. We work for a regious based hospital. She's trying to move up and she's really worried it would affect her career/job if someone decided to do that again? I've told her that I would be more careful about who I tell about work and such and go slower but I also feel she might be worrying a bit too much, though not unjustified.

Is there any resources/suggestions/solutions you guys have on how to handle this topic to protect yourself?