A bit of a long story but think the background needs set.

My Partner (31-F-Straight) and I (31-m-Pan) have been together for 3 years. Approximately 6 months into our relationships we decided to open it up. She has always been the dominant/instigater.

We started with regular mmf threesomes then mmmf and twice a mmff. She started a reddit account where she got 100s of likes on every post and really loved the attention.

We started having our own dates (both of us with men only). We got into chastity during this time aswell (virtually full time) (which the guys I was seeing were in to). This led to cuckolding and some feminization. She got more into being a Queen of Spades and even got some of the branded clothes.

After Approximately 18 months I ended up getting talking to another girl who I was interested in going on date with - she was very supportive of it but the night of the date she broke down in tears and said she didn't want to do it anymore and didn't want me to go on the date - I put our relationship above all else and canceled the date - that night we had amazing sex and talked how we would become exclusive again.

A year on from then, we've had sex less and less regularly, with the last time being approx 5 months ago - except for the night a year ago, I haven't orgasmed during sex since. It mainly went intercourse, then I would go flaccid and go down on her. She would get upset when I didnt finish.

We still love each other and have intimate times in bed, more holding each other and kissing. We talk about our future together (our kids, our wedding and the home we want to have)- we never talk about sex or our past arrangement.

She still has all of her QOS clothes and the chastity she had me in, even thou we have moved twice this year and done clearing outs both times. She still has my name on her phone as the feminine name she gave me.

I'm more now at a crossroads now trying to understand what the future will look like and should I say anything. I've a few options in mind but unsure what to do or if there is other options: 1 - not say anything and proceed as is - in the hope some day she makes a move for sex again and hope that it is good. 2 - bring it up and comfort her that we only have to have sex again when we are having kids but we still love each other and that's what matters 3 - ask her to go back to cucking me and having me in chastity and that I will be happy as she is happy 4 - ask her if we both can see other people again, excluding me dating women.

Appreciate any advise anyone has on what I should do next.