Not sure if I'm using the best flair. Still new to ENM (February will be one year for me), looking for advice, experiences, even anecdotal advice. I'd also consider this a bit of venting/ as well.

I struggle with scheduling, I typically living life flying by the seat of my pants. It hasn't really affected my relationships yet as most of my partners have only 1 or 2 or no other partners so it was a lot easier to call them up and ask what they were doing tonight.

I recently started getting serious with Christie, she has 2 other boyfriends and a handful of FWBs. No big deal but she likes to put plans in her calender a month ahead of time. As a partner I get preferential scheduling but I struggle to plan that far ahead most of the time for events that's are major (vacations, holidays, birthdays, ect.). I've tried calenders and planners and nothing works for me. Even though I take personal responsibility for this I have a job that can make it difficult to plan ahead as well.

I've been lucky and caught her when she's free or been stood up a few times, and other times where I haven't been so lucky. We both like eachother enough to put in effort but I'd like to accommodate her structure more. I can't be the only one who has been in a situation like this.