My partner (32M) and I (26F) have been together for just over 5 years and spent most of our relationship monogamous. We spoke about opening our relationship for majority of last year and started exploring ENM January this year, we laid out our boundaries and decided on a few basic ground rules to cover where our comfortability was at at the time; one of those being if someone else was to catch feelings for one of us or us for them we would need to cut it off but if it was reciprocated then of course we would need to sit down and discuss all the possibilities and what that may look for us. In my mind I thought it would be my partner that would fall for someone or someone else falling for one of us, now I have been seeing a guy since around the middle of October who has now informed me that he is starting to catch feelings for me and is aware of our rules so wanted to let me know. I didn’t want to cut it off and I couldn’t quite work out why I was struggling with that idea after all it was something my partner and I spoke about before starting this journey. I thanked him for letting me know and proceeded to relay the conversation to my partner and took the night to process it. The conclusion I came to is I have feelings for him too but I have just been trying to push them down/pretend they didn’t exist. I have now told my partner about my feelings and now we feel kind of stuck, on one hand we were only ever supposed to be just open and exploring sexual connections with others but on the other hand we’re human and what if poly is what’s right for us? I know my partner and I will continue to sit with this discussion and work it out, I just wanted to reach out to the community and see if you have experienced this sort of thing, what happened? And how are things now?