Hey there!

So I have an NP, we'll call him Raccoon. And a LDR, we'll call him Bear. I've been with Raccoon for about 8 yrs and our sex life has always been great. He's very good at oral and our orgasm ratio is pretty much 1:1.

Now with Bear, I've been seeing him about 6 months and the chemistry with him is amazing, fireworks, electricity, the whole thing. But when it comes to orgasms, I haven't had as many due to Bear's techniques really not being my style. This isn't for lack of enthusiasm or effort on Bear's part but it is a struggle.

I really really like Bear and have tried coaching him, but because of the LDR every time Bear starts to understand what gets me off, I then go weeks without seeing him. So it feels like I have to start over every time we're physically together.

So a few questions come from this: • Because Raccoon and I have been together so long, has Raccoon made me conditioned to his methods? • Does anyone have any nice/sexy ways to tell a partner what you like? • Is there a way to coach someone with a praise kink and tell them things you don't like about what they're doing?

Thanks in advance!

TLDR: Struggling with an LDR partner on techniques to make me orgasm, and it may be because my NP is too good at oral.