Hi everyone! This is a bit hard for me to write, but I’ve been feeling pretty lost lately and need some advice from people who might understand where i’m coming from.

Me (22NB) and my partner (22M) have been together for almost 3 years now and he’s wonderful. He’s very caring and considerate and we have a pretty strong emotional connection. That being said, over the past few months, I’ve started to think i may be polyamorous.

Its not that I love my partner any less or that i’m trying to replace him, i don’t find that my ability to emotionally (or possibly romantically) connect with others diminishes how much I love and care about him at all. I just feel like I have so much love to give and that being with one partner romantically limits me. I don’t like the societal expectations around monogamy and find it suffocating. I feel like I should be able to love whoever I want openly and freely.

However, he is monogamous. We’ve only ever talked about non-monogamy once when i expressed to him that i was exploring my feeling around non-monogamy and polyamory. He was very against it, which i respect.

I don’t want to pressure him into anything he doesn’t want, but at the same time i feel trapped and slightly unsatisfied because i feel like i’m holding myself back from something important to me.

I love him and don’t want to lose him, but I feel that denying this part of myself will lead resentment or that i’ll end up breaking myself and making myself unhappy just from fear of losing him.

How should I approach this conversation without making him feel like he isnt enough? Is it selfish if me to even bring this up knowing he is monogamous?

Any advice, experiences, or resources would mean a lot to me right now! Thank you for taking the time to read this <3