About me I (38m) am married and my nested partner (39f) prefers that I maintain things as parallel poly (meaning she knows and consents to me being poly, but wants nothing to do with any other partners). My NP is monogamous to me by her choice, as she has the option to do whatever she chooses.

The Location We are located in Eastern Idaho.

The Issue For those of you who have no idea what it is like here, this place is very conservative and repressed when it comes to anything other than monogamous relationships between cis-het couples and they indoctrinate people into believing it is the "only way" from a very early age. Finding any other partners is extremely challenging, dating apps like Feeld, Tindr, even OkCupid simply don't work around here because the population of the area is so small, and the only place to meet anyone is at a bar, which is horrible since I don't drink, and there really aren't many activities other than that around here.

It gets incredibly frustrating when talking with someone, and the moment I say I am poly and have a nested partner, they dip in one way or another, often times after trying to lecture me about how what I am doing is wrong (often calling me a cheater or other BS.) It ends up with things being more than a little messed up.

If I could move, I would, but it is simply not an option, so I have to make the best out of this dumpster fire called Idaho.