So not entirely sure if this is the right sub or not but here goes. Using a throwaway account as we have friends connected to us on our main account.

So the wife and I have a female friend who we’ve all grown really close to. We spend a lot of time with her and we take trips together etc. To the point, people at her work say she and my wife are sister wives. We’ve been naked numerous times around each other but we have never engaged in sex with her. I’ve also gone out to dinner and drinks with her a couple times at the wife’s suggestion when she was gone on a couple work trips.

The wife and I have been in the LS for 3 years and have full swapped with other couples and MFF etc. We’ve never jumped into a relationship with another partner as of yet but have talked about it and the wife said it would most likely be a female as she’s bi and I’m straight so we could all play.

Fast forward to now. I feel like the friend and I have gotten a lot closer than I imagined. I’m still full committed and in love with my wife and there is no thought of leaving her in any way. The problem is, I realized I have feelings for the friend beyond the friendship this past weekend when she was talking about a date she is actually out with for the first date tonight. It was a bit of a shock to me as I wasn’t expecting to feel jealous.

I talked to the wife about it last night and she was understanding and said it was a bit of a shock but she also understood since we spend so much time with her. I don’t know where to go from here because the friend is not in the LS. There is definitely a two way connection as we both flirt back and forth but I know she holds back because I’m married to her best friend. I don’t want to overstep her comfort and have always been respectful and tried not to cross any boundaries with her as I don’t want to ruin the friendship. But I feel like the connection between us has gotten to the point that I almost feel like a conversation needs to be had. But have no idea how to broach that subject with her or if I even should.

What advice do you have for me? More than happy to answer further questions to complete the picture with anything I may have not thought about.