How do you experience enm as a couple? Specifically have you had enm work as a couple if only 1 partner is active with other partners? Context is 2nd partner hasn’t found much they want to explore on their own in the realm of enm. And further to that context is that they also indicate they don’t want to. They want to only really have experiences together. They want to be apart of the situation partner 1 is in (in some way, at this point the bare minimum is getting a picture or a video when partner 1 is intimate with others.) I realize everyone’s situation is different and it’s honestly what you make it between you and all those involved. Just really been struggling with what’s acceptable and how everyone is happy.

My feelings lately (not that it’s necessary to answer the question) is that I’m not feeling into the experience when I have a venture with someone and they also know about the pic/vid and are ok with it, but it’s me. I’m not into it. I don’t enjoy whipping out my phone/camera and snapping a photo when I’m going to suddenly be intimate with someone. It’s a mood killer on all fronts. Yes, I’ve talked about it with my partner. We’ve had lots of discussion and we’re still in discussion. I’m just struggling because I don’t know what’s what anymore. Just wonder how others have navigated. What I’m missing. Maybe I’m just not into the couple aspect of it and it doesn’t work for me and my husband at which point then we end things. Also a frustration, but that’s another post for another day.