I’m usually lurking around here and see a lot of dislike for people just starting and I know lots of things have been said a lot but I don’t see it all so sorry.

Me and my wife tried being open before, I work from 6am to 5pm everyday. She got a job where she had to be at work at 5:30pm and didn’t get back home till 1 am. And I’m already asleep by then and we both didn’t they any time together so we opened up. She found her person and so did I. But for some reason I was struggling with jealousy and hatred. Not toward her but just building in my own mental attacks and anxiety and jealousy. So I thought drinking alcohol would help and eventually just went into a darker hole. And we stopped it and it took me months so get back to myself again.

I really enjoyed being open and didn’t really hate her seeing other people and loved having a gf of my own. And we both want to try it again. She wants to get her job back after quitting doing because my work like is rough sometimes especially have a kid.

This time we’ve set up lots of ground rules and really talked about I feel everything that could happen if we open again. If jealousy happens, if we fall in love with someone else. Stuff like that. So my I really want to know what others opinions on my situation and very open to conversation and questions about any advice or opinions. Just please don’t be too rude lol but appreciate the honesty. Thanks for reading my post!