i have been with my same sex partner for 12 years, we are married and have children/animals.

i have ~always~ been faithful and so have they(?)

they’re a saint, truly. always thought they were my equal other half.

we just aren’t sexually compatible anymore 😅 there is a considerable age gap and they don’t like doing some certain things you would expect to be normal in a mature sexual relationship……(no history of trauma)

i do not want to be away from them ever- we are such a well oiled machine in life but i need to “switch” it up - i am always expected to be the instigator.

i want to be ….aggressed….for lack of a batter term

😅🤪🤷‍♀️

we have had numerous conversations about sexual preferences and i am a l w a y s dtf LOL (guess who’s younger)

we have discussed, probably, three times opening up the relationship but they get defensive and it doesn’t go anywhere

i’m not looking for anything to replace what we have, i don’t want any emotional vestment in this for myself, genuine friendship, i suppose? but mostly i’m trying to find something nsa fwb who will push me around a little bit 🥵

anyway considering ultimatum of separation i’ve considered pros/cons

i think im ready but i dont want to present it as an ultimatum of like “if you don’t let me fuck whoever i want im out” because it isn’t REALLY like that

idk if im venting or asking for advice

just needed to get it out into the universe