I’m a 42 f in an ENM marriage. My husband doesn’t participate in dating other people, but strongly encourages me to. So I met my first partner (single man) several months ago. Took a few months to finally meet up because of him. We finally met and things went really well. We communicate often via text. We got together again soon after the first encounter but since then scheduling has been a major issue.

He asked that I be the one to initiate meet ups with him because I am the married partner and he feels it’s my place to do so. However, when I ask him he usually puts it off a week or more.

So what ends up happening is I feel like I’m chasing him… I hate how that feels but I want to be understanding of him having so many obligations.

He doesn’t see anyone else…

So wouldn’t he be motivated at some point to have sex? Or are some people just so into their work that they don’t think about it as often?