So my partner and I are poly, very strong, zero issues with our relationship or communication.

A while ago we decided to find a couple to play with so we could do group stuff and all the combinations that brings. We met a couple, I chatted with her for a while and we met up on Tuesday to meet and maybe play. We got along great, had a soft swap amd had tons of fun. She initiated a group chat after we were done, talked about playing separate too. I talked it over with my partner and we agreed that we would cement the 4 of us a couple more times before we try anything separate. The guy basically started chatting with my partner the next day.

2 days after we played the wife said she wasn't interested in getting together again as a 4sum but hoped her hubby and my gf couple still continue since they were hitting it off. Honestly I won't ever veto and stop her from meeting someone but I'm having trouble with this one.

I'm feeling rejected obviously and I don't want to hear anything about them talking or meeting or anything yet. I feel a little like they met us to peel off my gf for him, he had stated that he was having trouble finding a date while his gorgeous wife was really popular.

I just don't know what to feel right now or put this away. In the opposite situation I would have called us a package deal in this situation since we met as a couple but I also would never try and make her do that, even though that's what we both said after the wife initially said sje didn't want to group play (play with me obviously).

My gf does want to now meet with him and see where it might go, in fact she's meeting with him tonight.

Hit me with some wake ups or advice!