I knew going into this the balance would be off, but 3 months into my ENM relationship and it's a BIG difference... It's no help that we are HSV and overall keep it within the community. (I know he's on other sites, but we always disclose and promptly so.)

Is there anything I could do to boost his numbers? We're searching for couples preferably, but that hasn't been much of a success either.

I'm especially frustrated because he's been chasing this girl for 3 months - and she flaked for the millionth time. I am just tired of getting to have my cake and eat it too while he just gets mainly my cake and one girl who will only play with both of us (and he and I live an hour apart so that's difficult!)