(Cross posted from Polyamory sub reddit)

If you want the OG post, you can find it here! 🥰

So, I feel a lot better about that situation..

We are still polysaturated at 1, but we're doing really well.

I found moments where I missed him and the feeling of missing him then was identical to the way I miss him on dates, which proved to me that dates weren't the problem, I'm just used to a certain schedule because neurospicy and if that changes, I don't like it.

I'm happy it's my autism and nothing to do with Polyamory. 😁

I have found that while keeping myself busy doesn't change those thoughts to compersion, it does dull the negative and eventually time does change it to compersion. As long as I can have quick check in texts over a couple of hours at a time, I'm good. (Our agreement is every 2 hours or so, roughly. Shit happens that makes you late sometimes. We both have AuADHD, and time blindness is a real thing.)

Sweet.

I am also working on trying to make some poly friends that stay just friends so we can have those connections too.

Hubs and I also started a new, slightly more intense therapy schedule. We do a couple of hours twice a week where we confront issues head on. Hubs is working on his defensiveness and communication issues, and I am working on my change issues, and my own self efficacy and consistency surrounding my own sense of self and hobbies, and my co dependency issues. 🥰 it's working out famously.

For anyone looking for some good couple check in aides, or some good self help sorta stuff, we use this for our self therapy options. Its an awesome little game and it helps break the ice.

Things are going really well since I last posted. I see us jumping back into the fray projected around March but it could be as soon as January.

I'm just really excited and I wanted to share with some like minded folks who would get it. 😁