I don’t know where else to post this lol but I can’t deal with these thoughts on my own. I’m (31F)ENM with my husband and I found a dom and he was caring and courteous and into all of the same stuff I was and everything was going great until I googled his full name. I found some pending charges for soliciting a minor and I’m fucking heartbroken. I don’t know what to do or say or do I just block him and ghost or do I put him on blast?? I’m so fucking lost because I literally opened up in ways I never have before and now I feel like I failed myself. How do I prevent this in the future if I find another one??? Do I have to ask every man for their full name and then run a background check??? Do I just give up and go back to monogamy??? god why can’t people just be normal honestly this is going to throw me over the fucking edge lol