So I have been dating my bf for 8 months and started the open relationship from the beginning. He went straight away seeing his friend with benefits he knows long before me and I am totally fine with it.

I started seeing other guys about 3 or 4 months into the relationship and was kinda overwhelmed but also excited with all the dates. Right now, I only see 1 or 2 guys regularly other than my bf.

The thing is, he kept asking for reassurance. He has massive insecurities imagining me having more fun sex and dates with other guys.

Our sex lives changed a but because I changed my job (we met when I worked part time and now I worked full time) and I also moved to other part of the city to be closer to work, about an hour away from him.

He would ask me in detail about what I did with other guys and would compare them with what we did. The thing is, I do exactly the same, if I do something fun, I would ask him to find a time and do similar things. Even that, he kept complaining about how fun we used to be. (Like bro, I am tired from working).

Also, he has this idea of keep having a check up on each other but he would start from everything I did wrong for the past week and how he expected me to change that. I had told him it made me felt like he was reviewing my performance as a gf.

I have this feeling that he kept asking and asking and it's never enough for him. He would said 'it is a good start and I appreciate it' if I really do things he expected me to do. This includes saying things exactly the way he wanted. Like he literally, would give me an example of what words/phrase/sentence he likes to hear and asked me to repeat them.

If I said I am too tired to do things he wanted/asked, he would say something that implying I do those things with other guys. Which is not true. He said that if I am serious and really love him, I would do the same things like him and would find something from him to change. He said he felt like he and the relationship are not important because I rarely bring things up.

This is not only about sex life but my behaviour in general.

I am tired and it's suffocating. Does anyone ever deal with this kind of insecurities?