Hello good people. So, I’d done SO much self work to understand myself and how to exist in a mono/poly dynamic with my partner, me being the mono-leaning one in this arrangement. I’m not fully ready, but when we talk about our relationship opening up, she continually says that, after poly bombing me, she wants to do this ethically and respect my emotions. It’s beautiful, and such a kind gesture. The issue is, why do I feel upset at her for saying this and also saying, “I’m CHOOSING to do this and won’t pursue my options until you’re truly ready,” because she loves me? I’m supposed to feel good about her grace. Why do I feel awful? I think it has to do with not wanting to feel like the only one responsible for the decision in this or that she’s making me responsible for her feelings or something?