I have seen many pieces on YouTube lately where married cishet women admit that they "settled" for the man they married because he was a good person, potential provider and she thought he would be a good father if kids were wanted.

They admit to being more sexually attracted to other men whom they either could not get or felt would not be good marital partners.

Staying sexually attracted to the same person for decades is difficult for many of us, but starting right out of the gate with marginal sexual desire seems to be a recipe for marital angst.

Can a happy marriage exist If a man knows his wife prefers other men sexually but feels emotionally safe and secure with her husband? Is it a sign of security for the husband to be OK with this, or is it resignation on his part?