After a lot of soul searching, working through emotions, needs, wants, reading so much, I’d finally got to the point where I am more comfortable with a poly structure with my partner. During this time of learning and growing myself, my partner said she’d take it slow and wait until I was more comfortable with the structure. She met someone, and this is new to me, but she said she poly bombed me after the person she was pursuing didn’t feel the same about her, so she backed off from pursuing him. She said she was sorry that she did. She reassured me. Said it was wrong of her and if I could trust her again. I gave in and radically trusted her. She says that her dream relationship is one where it’s hierarchical with a primary. She says she wants the primary to be me… unless she falls in love with someone and then shifts the relationship to non-hierarchical. This isn’t the first time she’s changed her mind about the structure. She says she doesn’t know what she wants. Changing of rules and prescriptions is a frequent thing with her. Has anyone experienced this? This is new to me. I’m so confused. How do I navigate this situation of near weekly changes? Thank you in advance.