Good afternoon,

My wife and I (32m) are in the process of opening up to our first threesome. We’ve been married 10 years, and this is a fantasy we have both been playing with, and enjoy, so after some very in depth conversations, we have decided to move forward with setting up an MFM threesome, with some potentially light sexually fluid behavior involved. (TBD).

I LOVE the idea of moving forward with this, and so does she, but I’m not 100% sure how to buckle in some of the anxiety I’m feeling and it’s causing some issues. I’m diagnosed AuDHD and have general anxiety in everyday life, but am ready to move forward and experience this with her.

I guess my question — are there any pieces of advice that anyone is willing to share?

I’ve been working with my therapist (AASECT certified and very supportive), and have listened to every episode of Sex and Psychology (with Justin LeMiller), as well as half of the Shameless Sex catalog, so I’m not coming in totally blind. I really just want to know what people do to deal with the anxiety behind this sort of situation.

FWIW, I grew up as a Mormon and grew up some very incorrect and damaging sexual ideas because of this. I only had 1 past partner (before I met my wife) where penetration was involved and a handful more with other sexual acts (outside of penetration).

Tl&dr - my wife and I want to have a threesome (MFM), and I’m having some anxiety, even though I’m on board. Looking for tips to combat said anxiety.