I posted this a few months back: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/CgM4QhLcTI I got such great advice and support from this community. Thank you all, truly.

Since then, my wife started dating and sleeping with a local guy we didn't know before. The three of us have gone to events together, and I've chatted with him one-on-one. He's opened up new possibilities and experiences for her, some of which I'm into, and some of which are just for them.

I found my first outside connection just last week. We've been on a couple dates, and they've met my wife. The two of them totally hit it off, and they talked for hours while I had work stuff to take care of.

It has not been easy the whole time. The first time my wife hooked up with her guy, it revealed some major gaps in our mutual understanding of the Ground Rules. It was an incredibly difficult few days with heartfelt conversation and vulnerability and tears. But we made it through, revised our agreement, worked through my insecurities, and she was able to keep seeing him.

We continue to communicate and revise and leave space for each other to grow and change. Our sex life with each other is still astounding, even more now than before. We are deeply in love and deeply committed to each other.

There will be more bumps along the road, and maybe some of those bumps will damage things more seriously. But I can't imagine regretting the decision to open up. This year has been one of the best of our lives, and nothing can take that away.