I've been nonmonogamous/polyamorous for years.

Within the past year or so, I've been going to more lifestyle clubs and Kink events. I don't participate or swing much but the environment feels more accepting and natural for me.

Recently, I went to a couple regular clubs and bars and something about it felt different. I enjoyed myself but I couldn't shake the thought that these clubs were "Monogamy Clubs". It made the experience feel limiting. Like I couldn't genuinely connect with these people because there's a high chance they'd respond negatively to nonmonogamy.

I'm well aware that this is my own feelings that I'm projecting onto the normal people in those places but I remember being one of those monogamous people in the clubs. When most of society practices a compulsory kind of Monogamy, it makes normal bars and clubs feel like a waste of time and money ($15 drinks when I'm used to bringing my own bottle to share).

Does anyone feel the same? Are normal clubs more nonmonogamous than I give them credit for? Just wondering about others experience here.