Caught by Aquaintance

Recently I was at an event at my favorite bar with my wife. She was doing her thing and I happened to meet somebody. Between my excitement and maybe being a little tipsy, I got this woman’s number while an acquaintance saw. It got back to my wife’s sister. My wife’s sister is complaining to my wife about how uncomfortable she is having to field questions about my “infidelity.” Obviously I know it probably isn’t the best idea to do this sort of thing at a place we frequent if we don’t want things to get around and I know I have myself to blame. But I also feel like it’s not a huge city. Something like this will happen again.

Anyway, my question is do we owe an explanation to anybody? What do we do when others are uncomfortable? Is it best to come out? Or take the stance that we don’t owe anybody anything? My sister in law is making my wife feel bad for the discomfort that she feels personally.

It’s hard for me to relate. When my wife flirts with others in public, I’m generally unphased so I could use some perspective. But I guess I don’t want people thinking I’m cheating or just a scumbag.

For context, we started researching in April. We’ve been active in the lifestyle for about two months