Long story short, I mustered enough to ask someone I'm interested in to hang out as individuals. We both are in commitments, but both are open to communicating. I called her today, and she immediately answered. Short friendly discussion, no drama just a sense of respect for one another. My question is, how would you interpret this answer to my question of hanging out separately. What are the intentions hints of her following message? Open?

"I think it would probably be best if we did like group or couple things for now- just want to keep it respectful..."

I told her I'd call her again. She was excited and said okay...

Low-key, we'd be a good match. My wife and I have been back and forth 12 years, kids, house. My wife even had a mean joke during a fight that we'd be a good match - left field, only hung out with the woman in groups and rarely. I feel like I'm holding my wife back. She is codependent on me more than love. She wants to do things I don't want to do and vice versa. We fight a lot. I think I'm the one that needs to step forward anyway... And the woman would be good to me and I to her, we mesh.

Trying to figure myself out; I know it's adultery to pursue another woman in wedlock; but what if your wife literally didn't care unless you brought it up? IDK you guys