So my husband and I were poly to start then closed for a long time, now opening again. We're going to be seeing a couple's councillor who is experienced in enm to help guide us through the transition and the first step will be to discuss boundaries and such.

I just want to make sure that we talk through everything important to make sure there are no misunderstandings, we're on the same page and that we agree on the big points. Of course we can adapt change as we go, nothing is set in stone but we want a solid starting point!

So some important points I think are:

-How casual/serious these connections/relationships can be.

-Use of dating apps.

-Dates and sleepovers.

-Sex and disclosure.

-Off limits people.

-How much to talk about other people to one other.

-Communication when we're actually with other people.

-Barriers and testing.

Please let me know any other important things we should set initial agreements about!