Being in an open marriage or relationship and having sex with another guy that more than likely is either better or bigger or better looking than your SO,

My question is wouldn't it be better to just up and leave your SO either Divorce him or Dump him for this much better person ?

Or if you haven't yet found this person and just want to be with someone/ anyone until you do finally meet this person.

Is this what an open marriage / relationship means to you ?

I'm stuck on it all , coming from a mono lifestyle looking into an open lifestyle, this is what I come to think about open relationships.

Now the other thing is more of the sexual part with these relationships so forgive me if it is too explicit.

Sex and after you go home , does your SO have sex with you knowing you just had sex and does he give you oral knowing another guy was just having sex with you.

How do you feel about him giving you oral and if you are fluid bonded with the other guy will your SO still give you oral ?

I admit it seems strange from a mono side but what do you feel when you are with him and he is giving you oral and you have some of the other guy still inside you or maybe even a lot does your SO mind it like it ?

Does that act change how you think of the permanency of your relationship together or do you look at the relationship as now only temporary until you meet someone else and divorce your SO .

Just trying to figure this out . More on the continued relationship aspect of it.

Sume it up is is being in an open relationship a temporary relationship in your minds ?